Saturday, September 27, 2008

A brief history and a new plan

So here's how his hip looked in June. Most people have a 120° angle where the head of their femur turns to go into the hip socket, Ty's is 90°. A normal hip socket usually looks like this.

Only 3 months later, things are drastically different. Taking the same picture, try to imagine making the two arrows line up, and that is what his hip looks like now. There is no cartilage, and the ball has moved to the North 40 - I mean it is all the way out there in its own zip code!

This is what the surgeons think will fix it and significantly reduce his pain. The only catch is that the process will shorten his left leg. It is already 6 inches shorter than his right leg, so they will shorten his right leg in an attempt to even them out.

How do you ever plan for these sorts of things? Ten years ago, I had no idea he'd be as tall as I am, require major back surgery and five hip surgeries, not to mention the tumor and chemo. Through it all, he is still mostly pleasant (I am not sure I can say the same for me).

One of the only good things I can think of to come from all of this is his increased desire to communicate his needs and wants. I have heard him call for me by saying mom over and over - I wish it were more like "Mom, mom come check out this new song on my Ipod." Or "Mom, mom, I sit next to the cutest girl in my English class." Or, "Mom, mom how about this idea for my Eagle Scout Project?"

But you know what they say about wishes...come on, let's all have a fish fry! What do you wish for your children?


Elizabeth-W said...

I am so glad when you write about "I wish it were the cute girl in English".
I have a friend who needs to hear it's okay to think these thoughts.

Lisa M. said...

You mean, you didn't have a vision of what this experience would be like?

Goodness! *smile*

I love that it has helped improve his communication. I think that is wonderful. Oh so neat.

ShabbyInTheCity said...

Bless your heart.
I have fussed too much at my healthy boys this afternoon. I needed to read what you wrote.
Prayers for your boy!

adria said...

Your family is in my prayers. As someone recently told me, "you must be incredibly righteous/strong/something for God to give you so many trials". While I don't know if I agree with the sentiment, I'm trying to take it as a compliment that He believes my capabilities to be so great.

The Barnharts said...

you are so strong! Everyday I pray for my boys to be healthy and I think that if I do all that I can by feeding them organic and not alot of sugar and then if they get sick, then I'll know I've done all I can but nothing is for certain. You are so brave- do you mind if I add you to my blog list?

HDMac said...

Prayers for your son..... being the mom of a disbled now adult child... I feel your pain and your frustration at times... your doing a good job, mom...